Myka Meier, founder of NYC-based Beaumont Etiquette, which offers dating app etiquette classes, says starting a conversation by talking about jobs is one of the most common mistakes made by her clients — both male and female — who use dating apps.
Meier says that while work may seem like an appropriate and pertinent topic to start with, it can be viewed as "opportunistic" by some.
"A lot of feedback that both men and women in our dating courses give us is that it's almost like if you were to ask, 'so how much money do you make? "' Plus, Meier says that asking what someone does can sometimes lead to a dead end.
They might say they're a lawyer, but not ask about your occupation. Instead, Meier suggests starting the conversation with something that will help you get to know your match outside of their employer.
To finally get things on between that fellow you have been crushing on, you have to put on your creative mind.
You do this by following some principles while calibrating your messages to her responses.
I’m going to start by explaining the principles and I’ll end this article off with some practical stuff.
So you’re trying to know someone on a dating site or other online platforms and this just happens to be your first time; things can get a little messy with trying to know a person you aren’t speaking with face-to-face.
Relating with them might just be a task you don’t want to mess with.